Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Urology Update and then some

So we started out early this morning to head down to KY for Lillian's long awaited ultrasound regarding the free fluid in her abdomen above her bladder.  I had a quick stop to make at GFS to pick up my preferred yeast because it's the only store that carries It,  and it is super cheap there. While perusing the store I found a great deal on b/s chicken breasts, less than a dollar a pound, but must purchase 40lb case.  I bought my yeast and decided I'd mull it over throughout the day and went on our way to our appointment.  

I'll make this as brief as possible, but I really want to be transparent about my thought process today.  As we waited, long past our scheduled appointment, with Lillian and Ezekiel (5).  I became very weary.  I am so totally grateful for drs and hospitals that do help my daughter, I find myself extremely tired of the going and waiting. Not to mention the concern that rises up every time someone who is so obviously sick and miserable is coughing nearby. It is wearisome.  Grateful....but weary.  Lillian is so much better than the early years when appointments were constant, and I'm thankful for that. I'm thankful for the journey, but tired nonetheless.  

So, probably no less than 25 bathroom pit stops...LOL and three people washing hands and pant pulling up and all that good stuff, we have the ultrasound and set off to the dr office for results.  

Now, let me paint a picture for you, this waiting room is kind of like a very skinny, very small trapezoid shape.  Upon hitting the door, the MOST awful odor assaulted me.  AND...it was in that room, not going anywhere.  A room, in which we had to wait around 2.5 hours to be seen ( because they can't schedule the appointments back to back because that just makes too much sense and I don't want to have to make a additional trip down there for results and they can't possibly give them by phone even thought they provide NO physical exam on her....*sucks in breath*) Even though they say they will see us, they never do.  So at the one hour and a half mark there is us and two other ppl left in that room, and we were not the stinkers if you get me drift.  (and there are more details of this particular day, but I will spare you but to say I'm thankful for underwear on other ppl and some folks might need to consider covering their lady business) So we wait and wait and wait and they take us to a room where we wait further, but praise the Lord, we have gotten away from the smell.  I turn on some praise music which causes Lillian to break down into tears and then I wanted to to as well.  

The NP finally graces us with her presence to announce the fluid pocket is gone!  Gone gone gone!!  Praise the Lord.  I'm so thankul I listened to His prompting in holding back on the CT.  It is not often well received when you go against the wishes of the practitioners...ask me how I know...but I digress, I'm just so so thankful.  All glory to God who hears and answers.  Thank you to your friends who pray and intercede for our girl.  There are not enough words.  

Thanks for hanging in for the post if you're still reading...and if your wondering , I did pick up the chicken on my way home and I may be seeing chicken in my sleep tonight.  I was further blessed tonight by sharing food with some friends.  God is good.  All the time.  

Thursday, July 26, 2018

Life has been crazy!!

Sorry, for such a long time between posts.  My life has just been crazy.  Updates on Lillian:

1. We will continue to keep an eye on the broken tooth, xray does not appear to show any abscess
2. Pulmonary (lung) Dr was A-Okay...and you know how I obsess over her sats, well, she's back up to 99.  I give her albuterol daily and that seems to do the trick.
3. May was a pretty rotten month for her, she was sick for most of the month, requiring extra breathing treatments and several rounds of antibiotics.  Thankfully no hospitalizations.
4. Her urology appt showed us that she has a sack of fluid above her bladder in her abdominal cavity.  I'm praying it will just disappear and at this point, we are awaiting scheduling for a    pelvic ultrasound to further investigate.  If it is still there at that time, we will have to go for a sedated CT.  You just know how much I love that, right?  They want to skip right to that, however, I'd just like to pray that fluid away and avoid the CT altogether.
5.Lillian is now an AUNT!  Our third daughter gave birth three weeks early to a baby boy.  He had a rough start and is struggling a bit to gain weight, but he's just beautiful and extremely adored by one and all.

Keep our family in prayer, we have another grandchild due to come at the end of September and my Momma heart needs a little more easy....Being a grandma is surreal.  I'm so thankful for the experiences I've had to prepare me for what has transpired over the last few weeks.  Most people would likely not think having your baby in the NICU is a blessing, however, it prepared me for my grandson to be there.  It equipped me to help my young daughter going through a similar path.  (very thankfully not to the degree of our walk, but still.)  It is fun to have a baby in the house again and be able to have so much peace with him.

This year has held a lot of serious, difficult situations to walk through as a family with our children.  We've seen positive outcomes, praise God.  Though it has been difficult, I have been driven to my knees almost constantly and there is peace in knowing the Lord is in control at all times.  My emotions may be all over the place, but I KNOW He is near and I can trust in Him.

Monday, June 4, 2018

When I'm tired...

A glimpse:

This past week our refrigerator failed, our repairman was unable to fix it.  We went on a hunt because we were hosting our daughter's graduation party at the end of the week. (yesterday) Guess what? At the time  the fridge was supposed to be  delivered as promised, got a call that it is in fact NOT being delivered.  SO we hosted a party out of coolers and stored food at our church, so grateful for that.  It has been a stressful, long week.

 Lillian also had a dental appointment last week and it did not go well.  She completely regressed and cried and acted out through the entire cleaning.  Thankfully, she is not combative.  Her broken tooth is worse and the cavity above is still there.

Sunday, we all attended church as our third daughter graduated and several others, as well, were honored.  It was a whirlwind day all including LOTS of anxiety by Lillian.  She gagged all through the entire day, she cried terribly when we entered the gym.  My older daughter did some brushing and joint compression on her before we left and we had ear plugs shoved in her ears the best we could, but it was just stressful.

This morning, I asked her to get dressed and that brought on an onslaught of tears, because she simply did not want to change into regular clothes.  This led into terrible crying and gagging as I insisted on brushing her teeth after she had her turn.  This all lasted about 15 to 20 minutes, but it now has me in tears.  The tears come on me just as they do her.  Only, I know why mine fall because in these moments I'm hit with just how different and hard this daily, yes, DAILY walk is and can be. Things that you can't really discuss with all the regular people in your life because they just don't live it.  Or they tell you things that would work for "normal" children. I have raised a few,  this is not my first rodeo.  

Life is just hard sometimes and sometimes you live daily in hardship.  And no one really knows the extent.  Sometimes it's hard to remain optimistic and not discouraged and overwhelmed.  It's 12:51 and no one is crying now.  I'll be thankful and look towards a better day.  Say a little prayer for Momma, I'm a tired and a little emotionally drained today.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

New Glasses, new braces and a rant

Lillian recently got new glasses.  They are so cute and this time she was being very difficult about picking any out and then we tried this one pair and she said yes and never waivered.  Little brother also got glasses, so that makes all children in this family plus Mom with glasses.



  Near the end of March we had to get back to the orthopedic brace guy and get into new braces because she's had SOOOO much growth she had outgrown the old ones.  Woohoo!!  We graduated her to ankle height braces and we've, of course, had some foot breakdown and had to make adjustments, but I think we are good for now.

We no longer have respite care in the house, so Lillian is back to going on my grocery day.  Today, as I pulled into Walmart, I saw there was handicap parking on the side of the building and I pulled in to park. I then looked up to see that Walmart had moved all their smoking benches and cigarette towers right in front of all the handicap parking spaces.  There was a lady sitting there smoking and I restarted my car and drove around until one opened up in front.  Seriously???  Did it not occur to even one of the managers of the store that not ALL handicap people are limited to physical disabilities???  In case you are new here, Lillian has chronic lung disease, asthma, COPD and ciliary dyskinesia.  (CD means when stuff gets down in her lungs,  she is unable to remove it.) .  I go in and talk to a manager who basically tells me that it's permanent so people can smoke out of the wind.  She then told me store management is who made the decision.  I ask to speak to them.  After waiting for at least ten minutes for someone to respond, a very young man approaches and I start talking to him about it.  He tells me he will bring it up in the next meeting and nothing is permanent.  He also said he was new there so he didn't know how long it had been that way.  I told him I live here and I shop here and it is fairly recent.

The same thing happened when I was leaving the hospital with her, THE HOSPITAL, that has signs posted EVERYWHERE that there is NO SMOKING ON THE PREMISES.  There were two women sitting on the bench right beside the main doors smoking.  When I asked the staff to enforce the policy, she said "well I can talk to them but it probably won't help" then I had to insist that she ask the hospital security to ask them to move.

PEOPLE, SERIOUSLY?????

I already stress about taking her out in public because of germs, let alone having to walk through a smoke cloud to get into the store.

Just another day in the life of warring for my daughter.  Life can be hard enough...rant over.

On a lighter note, we took Lillian to church on Easter Sunday and there is really no place for her as far as sunday school or children's church, but she sat really well through the service.  Our pastor was trying to shrug out of his suit coat and it looked a little like it was stuck, but it really wasn't, but she giggled loud enough for him to hear and he teased her a little, but all day she kept just laughing and laughing, retelling us how "joh tu e ja"  translated Johnnie stuck in his jacket.  It was so funny and she must have told me alone the story four times.



Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Urology update

Today Lillian had her bi-yearly renal ultrasound and dr visit.  Her kidneys have grown considerably.  They were happy with that.  She didn't show any hydronephrosis, which was good.  She has not had any UTI's or infections, so that is all good.  There was, however, quite a bit of drama when we arrived, because a) we have to travel over an hour to get there, b) we have to push water through her tube to make sure her bladder is full, so c) when we get there she has to "go" so badly she is freaking out because she thinks she's going to pee her pants.  I had to physically restrain her on the table for them to get the initial pictures with the full bladder.  We then race to the bathroom and someone is in there.  (side note, does anyone think it's odd that a urology office only has ONE toilet...for PEDS?) Stressful.  Lots of stress.  After she emptied, which was a LOT, we went back and they said she was still pretty full.  So, back to the potty we went.

If she begins to have infections or incontinent issues, the testing they will need to do have to ramp up.  She said she might need a urodynamics test in the future to test her bladder pressures.  The bladder has more risk of problems because of her chromosome abnormality.  The vesicoureteral reflux will not be addressed unless she becomes symptomatic with infections.  All in all a great visit, minus the arrival drama.


Sunday I was having a bad " mental day".   I had wanted to make a visit somewhere (because we are basically homebound except for dr visits and those we try to push out of the winter as far as possible) I was suffering a little housatosis, but there was always one place I could go safely without concern for getting sick.  That place has been taken away from me.  I was sad and I still am.....just please when you think of us, say a tiny prayer for me.  There are things in my life that I'm settled with, but sometimes the grief of it all washes over me and there's nothing I can do about it.  I have moments of overwhelming discouragement from time to time. So friend, I leave you with this, are you weak and heavy laden?  Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For my yoke is easy to bear and burden I give you is light. " Matthew 11 : 28-30  I'll rest my soul there.

Friday, January 26, 2018

Dental and growth updates and a bit extra...

First off, shortly after Thanksgiving, Ezekiel got sick and just a few days later Lillian got sick with something that seemed entirely different, so for about a week I had two pretty sick kiddos, very little sleep, he had croup and in between his bathroom steam treatments I was having to give Lillian additional breathing treatments.  Her asthma flared and it took steroids for him and two solid weeks for both of them to be completely well.  

In January, Lillian had her quarterly dental appointment.  She did very well, she is ALWAYS highly anxious, but with some calming essential oils and a hand held diffuser ( a very nifty Christmas gift) she went through it like a champ.  Anxiety, but infinitely better than when we started.  That was the good news.  The bad news...she has a broken tooth.  Can I just say how upsetting and discouraging that piece of news was.  The end process that will eventually take place is NOT something I look forward to.  The dentist is ok with watching it for the next couple of months, unless there is an issue, and going from there.  Lillian had taken a pretty hard fall a week or so before and took a header, I think she broke it in the fall.  Her glasses took a pretty bad hit so I believe that is what occurred.   I have been vigilant about brushing and flossing twice day and she also has a cavity in the tooth above the broken tooth.  Again, something we are keeping an eye on for the time.

Thursday Lillian had her 11 year check up with her pediatrician and I tell you I almost fell into tears when she got on the scale.  She had gained three, THREE more pounds since November.  AND, she grew an inch and a half taller.  It's been about 9 months of real food going in her tube feedings and she has gained at least 6 pounds.  It is just overwhelming how much she has grown physically  n more ways that one.  I find myself wanting to tell random people how much weight she's gained and they look at me like I'm nuts.   HA!  (which I guess is partly true)  I don't even know if they use the terminology failure to thrive with children after they are out of the infant/toddler stage, but it is delightful to see my daughter THRIVING.  She actually has a BMI now.  That's big stuff to this Momma.  I almost couldn't focus on anything else after I saw him push the scale over the 50 pound mark....52 pounds.  Thank you Lord for the wisdom given to me to press forward and the therapist who made the suggestion and the prayers and gift of a friend who made blending possible!!  Did I mention I was excited about her weight??  😂 Rambling on a bit, no?  Moving on....

So, to end my day today I had the privilege of blessing a family with a meal whose daughter has been very ill and has struggled her entire life.  There is nothing like connecting to another Mom who has and is walking through a similar journey.  It is a deep connection for me.  I feel like my heart is tied to them.  The loneliness, the envelops me from time to time, passes in those brief moments of connection.  The Lord is so good and He sends me the best.  this journey with Lillian has and continues to teach me so much about loving and reaching out to others.  

I shared this picture on Instagram and I still can't get over how grown up she is looking.

Saturday, November 25, 2017

11 years and counting

November 25,2006.  The worst, best day of my life..or is it the best worst day of my life?    Waking up without your baby is one of the worst feelings I can remember.  I was not expecting to have Lillian...let alone the trauma that would ensue after her birth.  I can only partly imagine the harsh reality of losing a child.  I do, however, understand what is like to sit on the brink of it.  More than once and actually, with more than one of my children.

I am SO SO SO very grateful for the life of my girl.  Her life has brought SO much to mine.  We continue to be gifted another year to celebrate, when we were told only to expect one or two.  There have victorious mountains climbed and valleys that have taken us low and, at times, kept me there a while.

We celebrated with some of our family on Thanksgiving since we were all together.  She was showered with love and gifts.  She walks around, delightedly, with all her gifts in bags unloading and loading them as she moves from room to room.  She chose her cake and frosting, though she did not partake any of it. She also chose the "sprinkles" that went on top.


Lillian continues to touch the hearts of others near and far with her sweet smile and gentle spirit.  There are few days that go by without a whisper of gratitude to the Lord.

Thank you, Lord for 11 years and counting.  Thank you for the daily reminder to be grateful in all things.  Thank you for the blessings in good times and bad.  

It is amazing to look back at ALL the wonderful encounters her life has brought to us.


Thank you, friends, for 11 years of prayers, thoughts, kindnesses, encouragement, and blessings.

Happy 11 years and counting to my angel.